“We’re inviting God’s judgment on our nation when we shake our fist at him and say we know better than you as to what constitutes a marriage. ”
“And I can tell you right now because it’s the righteous judgement of God almighty.”
One of those quotes was from a member of Westboro Baptist Church (a small child), the other from Dan Cathy, President of Chik-Fil-A.
As a Christian, I support Dan Cathy’s right to make a statement of faith. I cannot, and will not, support a statement of faith that includes invoking the wrath of God on our nation. If I can’t tell the difference between you and WBC, you’ve got issues. If that were all it was, however, I might sneak one of their tiny, sweet chicken nuggets now and then. And a waffle fry. I love those things. Unfortunately, that’s not where this story ends.
- Marriage and Family Legacy Fund – Founded by Dan Cathy in 2007, its purpose is to implement and fund the Marriage CoMission, which reported that corporations are to “guide America’s values back towards the traditional family.”
- Fellowship of Christian Athletes – Sounds benign enough. But in reality, its intent is to “free” athletes from homosexuality.
- National Christian Foundation – Gave grants to The Discovery Institute, one of the most prominent proponents of replacing evolution with intelligent design; The Family Research Council, which was originally part of James Dobson’s Focus on the Family, and advocates against not only LGBT rights, but divorce (you wimminz who left your abusive husbands are going to hell!) and the theory that global warming is caused by humans, and is also involved in the politics of social policy; and Focus on the Family – James Dobson’s “family” oriented organization which launched a “True Tolerance” campaign warning people that anti-bullying campaigns are merely pro-gay propaganda, despite the high rate of suicide among LGBT youth who have been bullied. The rate is much higher than that of their heterosexual peers, and is much higher in conservative areas.
- New Mexico Christian Foundation – a smaller branch of NCF
- Georgia Family Council – Supports legislation to ban gay marriage
- Exodus International – The very famous organization that tries to “cure” homosexuality, as if it were a disease. The founder of this therapy has recently stated this kind of reparative therapy doesn’t work, and that he failed to repress even his own homosexual urges.
- Family Research Council – an organization so vitriolic in its anti-gay stance it was added to the Southern Poverty Law Center’s list of hate groups. It now sits among the KKK and Aryan Nation on that list.
- Eagle Forum – As anti-gay as founder Phyllis Schlafly’s anti-feminism stance. She was one of the leaders in preventing passage of the Equal Rights Amendment.
I have quite a few gay and lesbian friends, and I love them all dearly. Not because of their sexual orientation, but because they are some of the most incredible individuals I’ve ever been blessed to know. They are smart, kind, witty, compassionate individuals, and like all those whom I consider dear, I can’t imagine my world without them. Through them, I’ve witnessed the pain of hatred and bigotry that defies all logic, and I can’t begin to imagine what it must feel like to experience that. I will not risk one cent of my hard-earned money going to any of the above organizations. Not. Ever. I dare anyone to tell me they would be willing to stand by and watch someone they care about be hurt, and then willingly give money to the organizations that are major sources of their pain.
Here’s what’s driving me completely batty in about this whole thing:
- This is not new. I had this discussion with a gay friend of mine seven or eight months ago, each of us mourning the loss of our beloved chicken nuggets. Those things are tasty, believe me. But my friends are far more valuable than a stupid piece of chicken.
- This is not about Dan Cathy’s statement of faith. This is about not funding what amounts to as hate groups. So please, for the love of everything holy, stop posting on Facebook and on blogs that it isn’t fair that poor Dan Cathy and, by extension, all of Christianity are being persecuted, because they’re not. And stop asking why he’s not allowed to make a statement of faith, because he is, he did, and he will probably continue to do so. Further, Chik-Fil-A is a privately held company. They can say/do whatever they want and give money to whomever they choose. So can I, for that matter.
- Stop calling a boycott “liberal intolerance”. It is not “intolerance” for people to stop spending their money somewhere once they realize where their money is being funneled. What, you gonna force me to head over to Chik-Fil-A and buy a sandwich?
- Stop calling it an “attack”. I am simply taking my money elsewhere.
- Why was it okay for One Million Moms to protest JC Penney for having a Father’s Day ad with two gay dads in it, but it’s not okay for the rest of us to refuse to fund Chik-Fil-A?
- If people can cheer over politicians defunding Planned Parenthood because, although it is illegal for PP to use tax dollars to pay for abortions, they are afraid other PP funds will be freed for that purpose, then I can keep my money in my pocket, rather than risk it going directly to one of the above groups. Excuse me, but I don’t see any difference.
- Stop making fun of those who choose not to eat there. It makes you look even less tolerant.
- I’m just sick of the self-righteousness, the indignation, and the whatever-will-we-do-now pity party over non-existent religious persecution.
- Stop saying this isn’t about being anti-gay, that it’s about being pro-traditional marriage. That’s Orwellian Doublespeak, and we all know it. So knock it off. It’s double-plus ungood.
- It is stupid for mayors to tell Chik-Fil-A they aren’t welcome. Yeah, you read that right. That’s one I’m calling for the other team. Because that is a scary, scary line to walk. How many other businesses would be refused for any variety of reasons? Could you imagine if people were told they couldn’t build a house of worship in a community because they disagreed with their teachings? Oh wait…
- Here’s another one I’m handing to the other side: it is stupid to walk into a Chik-Fil-A and start ranting at an employee for his or her employer’s stance. You might just be yelling at someone who may or may not still be in the closet and was just subjected to a gleeful “Glad you don’t support them (homophobic slurs)” by the last customer.
- You don’t get to demand a company not financially contribute to bullies and then bully that company’s employees. That’s an asshole move, and you know it. Abusive behavior is never okay under any circumstances. As they said in Legend of Billie Jean, Fair is Fair.
If you want to eat at Chik-Fil-A, that’s your business. If I didn’t have to drive over a bridge to get there, I probably would have set up a tent in the parking lot years ago. Their chicken is just that tasty. If you want to eat there to support Dan Cathy’s right to make a statement of faith, fine. I believe we all have the right to do that, especially since Chik-Fil-A is a privately held company. But stop pretending that’s all there is to it, and stop pretending to have a monopoly on understanding what God wants. You don’t. No one does.